Why must all female protagonists be "sassy/ spunky/spiky"?

Sat, Apr 9 2011 09:40am IST 1
Babblefish
Babblefish
885 Posts
Figured I'd make a dedicated thread for this, given the conversation over in the critiques section.

Elysia wrote: "Babblefish - one thing I find interesting is how you automatically equate an obviously young girl's reaction to an attractive young man (whom she quite obviously likes) as 'ditzy'. I'm not singling you out in this (I've had this feedback myself about my teenage protagonist from others, and have read other people receive the same comments about their pieces when the protag is a teenage girl in the past), just simply that you commented here about it and it seemed a good place to ask this question: why is it that the expectation for female (especially young female) protags is that they must confirm in some way to the 'spiky, sassy smartmouth' stereotype to be viable / positive? I find this phenomenon quite fascinating - it is a trend I have noticed all over the place recently, and it seems to me that if a female protag displays any form of ditziness, petulance or naiveté, it is instantly something 'bad' that must be 'fixed' - and I don't know why. I work closely with teenage girls (and was one, once), and find that they are ALL, without exception, ditzy, petulant and naive in one way or another... (I've actually come to the point where I take it as a compliment when people outside of my target audience say my protag is a 'sulky teenager' or 'a bit wet' - means I've got it right!!)"

And I replied
"I can't answer in a general sense, only for myself... and even those answers should be treated with suspicion, as we are dealing in a subject I have... unclear thought patterns...
Anyway, to answer.

I personally don't like it when people act this way in real life, whether they are male or female. Family history and such has taught me to be wary of the ideal of "Love". I am not going to claim this type of reaction is unrealistic, and I'm not going to claim that it's unusually. Hell, I'd go so far as to say my way of thinking is fairly cynical.
People twist themselves in knots for this kind of infatuation. They pretend to be things they aren't. They do things to try and please someone else, and every time I see that I feel like saying "For gods sake, they're just another person. There's nothing special about them."
And yeah, I'll admit, that's a very closed minded view. But the pursuit of "love" can make people blind, and in some cases selfish. It becomes "I want this person," rather than "I care about this person."

I'll agree- it is a shame that every heroine seems to be some sort of "ball of spikes". But I've gotta say, it's a hell of a lot better than the classic "damsel in distress". (Please note Jess, I'm not saying your character is a D.I.D., I'm just talking about general stereotypes here, I haven't seen enough of your MC yet)

I'm trying hard to think of Female characters that don't fit this, and the best I can think of is Hermionie Granger from H.P. (not strictly a protagonist, but none the less...)

I think one of the problems to consider is this- A Protagonist, by definition, MUST be someone who takes action. At least... in most stories I read they do.
So... is the kind of girl who swoons over boys and cares abundantly what her social circle thinks likely to be a cause of interesting action in the story? She sounds like a follower, and stories, generally speaking are NOT about followers.

Yes, it's unrealistic to pretend that every heroine is a "Sassy livewire", but it is true that not all character types lend themselves to being protagonists (Truth be told, I've got about half a dozen fully fleshed out characters that I WANT to write stories for that stubbornly refuse to actually have adventures.)

Protagonists are meant to be role models. They're meant to give us something to look up to. And yes, this can be done through character development, but it is also done by making our MC's stand out character's to begin with.

I dunno. For me personally I expect my MC's to be Paragon's- perfect examples of a particular ideal. The story puts their ideals to the test, but ultimately they remain true to who they are. It may be more realistic for a character to be swayed by other peoples opinions, but this does not appeal to me. (I have got a character like this, who chases after boys, tries to act normal. I probably haven't got it quiet right, but even so, she is character I have a particular dislike for. To give a rough picture of my distaste, I actually LIKE her sister, Janine, more. Janine is a compulsive liar who tortures children.) "

-Probably worth mentioning that I probably didn't think this out properly, in which case there may well be gaping logical holes.



What does everyone else think?
Sat, Apr 9 2011 10:44am IST 2
CJ
CJ
955 Posts

Oops - didn't see this!

I replied:

Thing is - people *do* act like this in real life. Yes, it is annoying, but it is something that I see every day (working with teenage girls means I see more of this behaviour than is possibly healthy...), and therefore does have a place. I agree that it shouldn't be all the time (Miss Bella Swann, please stand up...), but it seems that people get criticised for it even if their character displays the merest hint of anything that may equate them with the damsels in distress of the past. Personally, I am as sick of the 'she's as good as any man!' stereotype as I am the wet hen - it's like male characters can have the most terrible flaws and no one bats an eyelid, but make your female character, for example, sulk and suddenly she's 'wet' (she's allowed to be cold or nasty, because they are assertive negatives - I am talking of passive negatives here). To me, it's almost an apologetic knee-jerk to years of women being portrayed as the damsel in distress - now they all have to be sassy and spunky (even Hermione isn't allowed to really make mistakes - yes, she can sulk, but she's not allowed to be vindictive or stupid, like Ron and Harry frequently are) otherwise we feel a twinge of 'eek - bad old days - mustn't go there again!', but it means that whole facets of a character's personality have almost become totally taboo. I actually like exploring the more negative sides of my characters - for me, it makes them more human - and would rather my character act honestly (for example, the first time my teenage female protag is faced with a grin-faced man holding a sword, she cowers in front of him and begs him not to hurt her. She's not sassy. She offers no witty remarks. Why? Because she's never faced a man with a sword before and she's freaking *terrified*! It doesn't exactly portray her in a positive light, but I really feel strongly that it is a far more realistic reaction than her staring him squarely in the eye and making a spiky comeback) than being 'cool'.

A real life example - I met an actor I am rather, uh, fond of a couple of years ago (Jason Momoa). Did I shake his hand and offer a witty, cool comment to break the ice, like I had practiced in my head so many times before? Did I hell. I went bright red, giggled, forgot how to talk wouldn't go near him for about half an hour. I acted like a total clutz - it was pathetic, to be honest. But that is how people react when faced with someone they really like - they go to pieces (I even apologised to him for wasting his time. Gah, I cringe each time I think about it. Not my finest moment!)
Sun, Apr 10 2011 01:37am IST 3
Babblefish
Babblefish
885 Posts
You raise very good points. Ummm... I'll try to agree with individual pieces.

- Hermione seldom being vindictive or sulky.
Well... she was sulking and/or crying in first book when troll attacked (can't remember which, from memory Ron and Harry saved her, yet we think no less of her for it). But more to the point- There is a reason why EVERYONE I know was hoping that harry would get killed in the last book. They got sick of him. They didn't like him any more. He was a twat.


I guess another point to make, is maybe it's a matter of first impressions. Hell, you can have the best character ever, but if they don't make a good first impression, it can be very hard to recover. Equally so, if a character DOES make a good first impression, then the reader will most likely follow them, even AFTER they've made several mistakes.


You talk about assertive and passive negatives- so here's a question, are male characters allowed passive negatives? How often do you see a cowardly hero? Or how about a hero who just isn't interested in getting involved? I wrote a book on such a character. (okay, a short book). 40k words on a character who's central ethos on life was "don't get involved".
Guess what- It sucked.
Now... if I had stopped for five minutes in advance to think about stuff perhaps I should have figured that out. but I didn't.
Protagonists need to be assertive, regardless of their gender. No, I'm not saying that that is a reflection of real life, but tell me, do you honestly want to read through a novel, and spend half the time thinking "Damn it Alex, stop whining, get off your ass and do something. I could do better than that."
Me and my mates watch Starwars recently. We spent the entire time criticising Aniken for not being to sulky, and were thoroughly pleased when he got Vaderafied.


Now... side characters on the other hand are another barrel of fish altogether. The protagonist is required to be the central driving force of the story, and thus has to have a certain degree of Omph. Everyone else in the story is free to be as naive, sulky, easily distracted or "wet" as they like. Perhaps we might think less of them for it, perhaps not.

Protagonists of any gender require certain features. D.I.D. do not have these features. Hence, by definition, Heroines can not be Damsels in Distress.
Well... sort of. The english language is not mathematics, so these forms of absolute proof are obviously imperfect, also my definition of protagonist may be to narrow.
Sun, Apr 10 2011 05:01am IST 4
stephenterry
stephenterry
1882 Posts
In today's mainstream market, the key is to have a M/C who faces a negative life changing experience, is challenged by continual conflict and who fails at every twist and turn until the end when he/she succeeds.

The antagonist, on the other hand, always succeeds in thwarting the M/C right up to the last moment when everything seems lost for the M/C - but by some miracle of fate he/she turns the tables - and everyone walks off into the sunset.

It is a tried and tested formula that sells books, because readers relate to and want your M/C to succeed against all odds.
I cannot see a 'drip' being able to do this with any hope of dragging readers along with him/her. That's why there are sassy heroines...
stephen
Sun, Apr 10 2011 10:56am IST 5
Liss
Liss
384 Posts
I suppose all characters have to be a little bit larger than life, otherwise it would just be:

1: Are you coming to the pub?

2: Yes. In a minute.

* go to the pub*

*come home*

1: work tomorrow.
2: yup.

"Sassy spunky and spiky" as you so alliterately(is that a word? It should be) are traits that I think cover a larger than life female protagonist.
Sun, Apr 10 2011 12:23pm IST 6
Malcolm
Malcolm
700 Posts
The truth is that most people, male or female, wouldn't have witty or sassy comebacks when confronted by a man with a sword. We'd all do something unspeakable in our underwear. Its proabably ok if your MC does too (though less so if he's male) so long as they still arene't doing the same thing by then end of the story (and provided it doesn't take them so long to grow a set that readers are screaming in frustration long before the end of the book.

The thing to remember about writing fiction is that it's fiction. It needs to be believable and "accurate" but it doesn't HAVE to mirror real life. If its appropriate for your MC to giggle at the sight of a guy she fancies then have her giggle away. If it isn't then witty comebacks to the fore. Either way though the MC better have grown during the story or readers will be left wondering why they bothered. I suspect though, that readers will abandon a one much quicker than the other.
Sun, Apr 10 2011 01:29pm IST 7
Babblefish
Babblefish
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BTW- just thought of another type of Protagonist that might has nessisary omph but isn't all that say- The absolute scientist/journalist. Someone driven by an burning desire to KNOW. this trait will throw them into sticky situations, but doesn't necessitate an abundance of witty comebacks. I could imagine a rather enjoyable sort of protagonist with a sort of dreamy, dissasociative streak rather than spunk.
Yeah, I'll admit, this is equally unrealistic, but it would be a change. Maybe I'll try them out some time.
Tue, Apr 12 2011 12:41pm IST 8
Babblefish
Babblefish
885 Posts
BTW (again)- why can't a MC be spikey and naive? These terms aren't mutually exclusive in any way. I mean... think about it, they can be stubborn, and smart mouthed, and still make some horrific blunders or say things which are just plain silly or sulk. Just so long as they KEEP GOING.


Sun, Apr 24 2011 02:41pm IST 9
Alanboy
Alanboy
434 Posts
'Sassy, spunky, and spiky'
In the late 80's - I think - may be early 90's, there was a tv series called 'Prime Suspect'. It had the excellent Helen Mirren as the chief officer (Jane Tennison?) leading a team of recalcitrant male detectives (Tom Bell was one). The bad guy was a pervert-cum-torturer who was chaining up his victims and leaving them to die.
Tom Wilkinson was the love interest, but he was half-hearted and flitted off, if I remember.
I am reminded of this series and the characters every time I read a modern crime story. Of course it worked brilliantly, and my own memory of it is clear. And I'm not saying these characters are stereotypes. Well, not much. Not more than male cops have to be 'tough and abrasive.' Perish the thought of a sensitive one.

I've been distracted, and I can't remember what I was going to say next. Maybe something about being time to move on. And let's be a bit more imaginative.
Sorry, I can't finish what I've started.

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