Yes, it's a very good post, that one. From a classic blog about the
whole business, from an editor contemplating the furious or just
plain crazed reactions to rejection:
"What these guys have failed to understand about rejection is
that it isn’t personal. If you’re a writer, you’re more
or less constitutionally incapable of understanding that last
sentence, if you think there’s any chance that it applies to you
and your book; so please just imagine that I’m talking about
rejections that happen to all those other writers who aren’t you.
"Anyway, as I was saying, it realio trulio honestly isn’t about
you the writer per se. If you got rejected, it wasn’t
because we think you’re an inadequate human being. We just don’t
want to buy your book. To tell you the truth, chances are we
didn’t even register your existence as a unique and individual
human being. You know your heart and soul are stapled to that
manuscript, but what we see are the words on the paper. And
that’s as it should be, because when readers buy our books, the
words on the paper are what they get.
"This all becomes clearer if you think about it with your
reader-mind instead of your author-mind. Authors with books are
like mothers with infants: theirs is the center of the universe,
uniquely wonderful, and will inevitably and infallibly be loved
by all who make its acquaintance. This has its good aspects;
books, like infants, need someone to unconditionally love them,
and champion all their causes. On the other hand, it can be a
form of blindness.
"Your reader-mind has a different understanding of the whole book
thing. Your reader-mind knows what it’s like to walk into a
bookstore, or a Costco, or a Target, and confront a wire rack the
size of your living-room wall, with slot after slot filled with
books. At that moment, standing there in front of that rack, you
don’t much care about encouraging new writers, or helping create
a more diverse literary scene, or giving some author a chance to
express herself. You want a book that will please you,
and suit your needs, and do it right now. Dear
reader, you are many things, but “gentle” isn’t one of them."
http://nielsenhayden.com/makinglight/archives/004641.html