The handling of sensitive subject matter

Fri, Dec 30 2011 10:01am GMT 1
Eli d’Elbée
Eli d’Elbée
167 Posts
Hi,
Just wondering what people's thoughts are on handling of sensitive subjects. No not violence or vulgarity. I have a story about a baptist pastor and the question of free will (wife has a brain tumour removed and suddenly doesn't love him no more, so she leaves; story of Joeb sort of thing as the pastor questions his faith). A friend has read the first mess and suggested I stop. "It's the kind of thing some people will react badly to" he said. He's not a sensitive fellow, so I was a little surprised by the reaction, and it has left me wondering if there are limits to what one can/should write about. I'm not sure what to do.
Any thoughts?
Eli
Fri, Dec 30 2011 10:22am GMT 2
Tenacityflux
Tenacityflux
1266 Posts
Why did he think people would react badly to this story? I don't think that you can write what's in your heart and always expect everyone to like or not be offended by it. Your story sounds interesting, I always feel that if faith can't stand up to a struggle or two then it's not much good is it? If someone can live through the Holocaust and still believe in God, I would suggest that your book should be no problem!
Fri, Dec 30 2011 11:56am GMT 3
EmmaD
EmmaD
1997 Posts
I think if you write honestly, not trying to propagandise or push a particular agenda but trying to explore important ideas of faith and free will with sensitivity, then anyone who reacts badly is just having a knee-jerk reaction to a story which doesn't reinforce their particular world view. And there's no reason to pander to them.
Fri, Dec 30 2011 12:29pm GMT 4
Eli d’Elbée
Eli d’Elbée
167 Posts
Thanks for your thoughts ladies,
The twist in the tale is that the wife calls the pastor 12 months after their separation and says "I think I made a mistake". They get back together, but then she starts having head aches again.
My friend suggested changing the pastor Joe character to just average Joe on the street, but I thought the story would lose some of it's philosophical edge and I'd like to keep him. And that's where it gets sensitive (and I wonder what it says about me). By questioning 'love', I'm indirectly questioning 'faith' - in this case religious. It's difficult to say that there's never an agenda. We are all coming to everything from particular angles. I want to explore the nature of love and indirectly faith, which for me are ultimately conditions of the mind/brain. I can include all the biblical text I want and take the pastors POV till doomsday, but the backbone of the story is "wifie only loves you when she has the tumour (which is probably killing her)", which raises the issue of free will and faith.
Is this getting too complicated for the holiday/festive session?
Apologies,
Eli
Fri, Dec 30 2011 12:57pm GMT 5
EmmaD
EmmaD
1997 Posts
"By questioning 'love', I'm indirectly questioning 'faith' - in this case religious."

All the truly religious people I know question their faith every day of their lives - how it relates to the world, what it says about what they do, etc. etc. A faith that can't absorb questioning and still go on having meaning for someone is a pretty thin thing, and not worth you worrying about.
Fri, Dec 30 2011 03:52pm GMT 6
Tenacityflux
Tenacityflux
1266 Posts
I don't quite see what the problem is here at all. I don't think you are questioning faith a all, your character is when life throws him a curve ball, but that doesn't me that the book is offensive, it's a jounrey. By shoing that human love can be inconistant and self serving, which frankly when faced by death is quite understandable - are you not showing that divine love is immortal and therefore superior? There are loads of cases when people change after medical disasters, and people who are knitted together by adversity who find they have nothing in common when the dust settels, so personaly I can't understand what the problem is with this idea. The wife only loves him while she has a tumour - makes perfect sense to me and I can see both ehr side and his - she feels she has been given a new lease of life and suddenly wants to break out and go wild, he feels cheated as she's been 'saved' but rejects him which causes him to question his faith and the role of carer he's been given (Which can be enjoyable, nothing like a bit of self sacrifice) I simple have no idea what your friend was worried about. I just don't see that by questioning love you question faith, sorry!
Fri, Dec 30 2011 05:15pm GMT 7
Tony
Tony
2114 Posts
There's not been much said about the 'free will' side of the story. I get the impression that it will be showing that while we think we fall in love freely, it is actually very much to do with the makeup of our brains and if that changes our feelings of love may change, too - automatically, no free will about it. This could be quite a challenge to the accepted way of thinking. But nothing wrong with that. Challenge away.

As to the faith aspect, that could be handled in so many different ways. Your MC is a pastor. That suggests he is probably a Baptist or a Pentacostalist; other mainstream denominations have different names for their leaders. You need to research well to 'know' your MC. (I've assumed he is of the Christian faith, but similar questions would apply for other religions.) For example, is he a born-again Christian? Not every church leader is; a few wouldn't even claim to be. Of course, he should be, but is he? If he claims to be a Christian, even thinks he really is, has he actually had a conversion experience when he received the Lord Jesus into his life, or has he just come to a mental decision that he believes what the church teaches and thinks that's all there is to it? If he is a true, born-again Christian does he struggle with the usual temptations? Is he filled with the Holy Spirit? Does he regularly know God's guidance in his life? And so on, and so on.

You don't need to tell the reader the answer to all these questions, but you should know them, because they will affect how he reacts to what life throws at him. It doesn't matter if you decide your MC is going to lose his struggle and his faith - it happens. But the intellectual 'Christian' reaction to that is likely to be quite different to that of the spiritual Christian. So you need to know your man in order to write convincingly.

Cool
Fri, Dec 30 2011 09:06pm GMT 8
BobAird
BobAird
92 Posts
Hi Eli,

Writing is something very personal to the author and there is no reason you cannot write what you want. We have fought many millenia to enjoy the freedom we have today. You should, however, be prepared for people to be offended, to criticise, or to tell you to stop. But my advice to them would be 'Don't read anymore of it; it's clearly not for you.'

Saying that, I would only write on subjects I know about. It's why I write Sci-Fi: I know a bit about science and a lot about making stuff up :-). Being an atheist, I wouldn't be afraid to tackle religion (or any topic I'm unfamiliar with), but to do it respectfully, I would read up on it first. And if I still offended then at least I hadn't been reckless.

The idea for your story sounds emotionally powerful. People want that in a story.

Write it, and write on

Bob
Mon, Jan 23 2012 02:04pm GMT 9
Alanboy
Alanboy
434 Posts
I can't go with self-censorship. If it needs to be written, then write it.
Having said that, I read 'The 120 days of Sodom' recently, and I thought it was a pretty worthless piece of self-indulgence, but should it have been written? Yes. I would not deny anyone the freedom to express themselves. It just wasn't to my taste, and I had the choice not to read it.

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